If you decide to step back into the world of relationships, dating can be very awkward at first, if not really scary. After getting married, having children and divorcing, we cannot say that we always enjoy that experience, but we really learned a lot. Actually, it's a period of transformation for us. We finally learned more about ourselves than we could own.
We talk about abilities such as learning to speak wisely, listening lovingly, stopping trying to control our partners or making carbon copies of ourselves, and forgetting unrealistic expectations from them. Here is one practical tip that we learned and practiced to have a successful relationship. We call this the "Date the Four Seasons" tip. After you meet exclusively, date for a full year. By dating for four seasons, you can experience before marriage, many of the events and situations that you must live each year together.
For example, Lewis is Jewish and Diane is Catholic. Diane is far more socially active than Lewis during her vacation from Thanksgiving to New Year's Day. For Diane, it's time for a party with all the annual meetings to attend. Even though this was fun for Lewis, he found there were too many shows, too close together. So in choosing Lewis, Diane accepted that he might not attend every event with him. Lewis, in choosing Diane, accepted that he would attend these events with or without him.In the summer, Diane found that Lewis's work required him to work twelve hours a day during May and June.
Lewis learned that Diane visited his mother every summer for two to three weeks in July. Lewis vacationed with his children in July and camped with his male group in August. Lewis realized that Diane would not choose to take a High Vacation service held in Hebrew in September. In October, Lewis learned that he would spend the month eating and drinking from plates and cups of pumpkin, and in almost every room he would find witches, spiders and skeletons.
For example, Lewis is Jewish and Diane is Catholic. Diane is far more socially active than Lewis during her vacation from Thanksgiving to New Year's Day. For Diane, it's time for a party with all the annual meetings to attend. Even though this was fun for Lewis, he found there were too many shows, too close together. So in choosing Lewis, Diane accepted that he might not attend every event with him. Lewis, in choosing Diane, accepted that he would attend these events with or without him.In the summer, Diane found that Lewis's work required him to work twelve hours a day during May and June.
Lewis learned that Diane visited his mother every summer for two to three weeks in July. Lewis vacationed with his children in July and camped with his male group in August. Lewis realized that Diane would not choose to take a High Vacation service held in Hebrew in September. In October, Lewis learned that he would spend the month eating and drinking from plates and cups of pumpkin, and in almost every room he would find witches, spiders and skeletons.
We had a friend whose ex-husband told him that he became very irritable because it was hot in the summer so he actually couldn't be nearby during those months. We wondered if the two of them might avoid a big mistake if he dated him during the summer? Do you get an overview of the various experiences given by dating for four seasons? Enjoy your relationship! Dating has ups and downs, but, as with any adventure, the prize can be fantastic.
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